We started "trying" last summer and got pregnant right away. We were beyond excited when we found out. However, we had know idea that this pure excitement of a new baby would be ripped away from us in a few short weeks. That's right, my first child is part of the 25% that resulted in miscarriage. Of course we were devastated, but knew that we could keep trying. Unfortunately things weren't quite as easy as the first time. Months went by and there was no sign of hope {I'll spare you the details of cycle information}, but I went to the doctor to receive some upsetting news. It would likely take us 2-5 years to become pregnant again if we tried on our own... I was losing hope. We were extremely bummed by this news, but we just kept trying. Many more months had gone by and a year had passed since I lost the first baby. I had lost hope that we would be able to do it on our own. So I set up an appointment with a fertility specialist. Just a couple of weeks later I found out that I was pregnant. I couldn't believe it. I actually took two tests just to make sure! My disbelief collided with the reality that I was reading on the stick. I just didn't understand. I was excited because we had been waiting so long for this. But I was also afraid... afraid that I might lose another child.
That's how God works... super mysteriously and on His own time. Just when you are about to lose all hope, he restores it. God is so faithful!
Next I would just like to give some insight to everyone...
Making a baby isn't easy for everyone. Stop telling young women when they should/should not have babies. I can't recall how many times in the past year I have been given "advice" from people about when to start my family. Thanks for trying, but what you told me didn't really make a difference. We had already made that decision and it was up to God, not us.
It is hurtful to have people telling you when you should have babies. There were so many times I just wanted to tell people "If you really want to know we would have loved to have a baby last month, but sometimes God has a different plan." That would shut 'em up pretty quickly...
Anyhow, the thing is you don't know whether a couple has been trying for years or has decided to wait until such and such time. If they want to tell you they will... Let them have their privacy!
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